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This isn’t a method.

It’s a return to honesty.

Something in you always knew it didn’t feel right.
The bit. The pressure. The pushing through resistance.
Or—when not using force—being told to “motivate” with treats.

You were taught to reward obedience.
To correct resistance.
To believe that if your horse wasn’t cooperating, something needed fixing.

But what if your horse was never confused?
What if they’ve been communicating all along—
and no one ever taught you how to hear them?

The Horse, The Human, The Truth

A 6-part docuseries about coercion, compliance—and the quiet cost we’ve normalized.

What we call “training” is often just coercion—repackaged with softer language.
What we call “respect” is too often just submission in disguise.
And what we call “leadership”… often leaves no room for the horse’s truth at all.

If you’ve ever felt uneasy—even in the most “gentle” approaches—this series will help you name why.

You’ll hear from veterinarians, horse professionals, psychologists, and everyday humans
who believed they were doing the right thing—until their horse showed them otherwise.

You’ll see how normalized practices disconnect horses from themselves.
And you’ll discover what becomes possible when we stop leading with agenda—and start listening with integrity.

🟡 Now streaming on:
Amazon Prime Video (UK & USA) ¡ Filmzie ¡ Biblio+ ¡ Roku
📍 Or watch all six episodes free—right here on LivingTheHorse.com

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💬 What Viewers Are Saying

“An extraordinary, deep, open and thought-provoking docuseries. It contains invaluable honesty—not just for the equestrian world, but for all of humanity. This bare ‘wake-up’ reflection on how we treat the vulnerable beings we claim to love is so needed. BUT—are people big enough to drop their egos?”
— Helen

“The truth is compelling. The horses are finally seen—and heard.”
— Astrid

“A major breakthrough in the field. Beautifully documented, a unique and important film series.”
— Alison

🐴 LEARN TO SPEAK HORSE

A 12-week course for people ready to stop managing their horse—and start truly meeting them.

This isn’t about fixing your horse.
It’s about discovering who they really are—beneath the conditioning, the compliance, and the behaviours we were taught to control.

Many people come thinking they already have a bond.
But partway through, they say the same thing:

“I didn’t know this kind of connection was possible.”

You’ll learn how to:

  • Decode behaviours like biting, spooking, freezing, and “testing boundaries”
    These aren’t bad habits. They’re messages.
    We’ll help you understand what your horse is really expressing—so you can respond with truth, not tactics.

  • Recognise how subtle forms of pressure lead to learned helplessness
    Even when we remove force, many interactions are still built on expectation.
    Whether it’s rope pressure, clever tactics, or treat-based motivation—
    the result is often the same: a horse who responds, but isn’t choosing.

    Over time, this creates compliance, not connection.
    And eventually, learned helplessness: when a horse’s spirit is diminished, and they stop trying to communicate.
    They give up—not because they’re calm or content, but because they’ve learned their truth won’t be heard.

    We’ll help you recognise these moments.
    Not to feel guilt—but to reclaim the possibility of a relationship built on truth, choice, and presence.

  • Stop performing—for your horse, and for yourself
    Performance happens when we stop being who we truly are.
    When we shape ourselves to meet the expectations of trainers, traditions, or the society we were raised in.
    And without realising it, we ask our horse to do the same.

    But the horse is always authentic.
    So when we pressure them—subtly or overtly—to meet our emotional needs, to look connected, to prove we’re doing it “right”—
    we hurt them. Mentally. Emotionally. Spiritually.
    And often, this disconnection eventually shows up in the body: lameness, shutdown, stress responses, illness.

    No one is happy in a performing relationship.
    We’ll help you come back to presence—so your horse doesn’t have to pretend either.

  • Practice the Ribbleton Check-In
    This isn’t a technique.
    It’s a way of meeting your horse where they are—right now—emotionally, physically, energetically.
    It creates a safe, honest space where your horse feels seen, not shaped.
    And from that space, a real conversation begins.

This work doesn’t give you a better-behaved horse.
It gives you an honest relationship—one your horse wants to stay in.

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Books & Retreats

For those ready to stop performing—and start living aligned.

Paulette’s books are not horse training guides.
They are soul-level invitations to unlearn, to listen differently, and to return to a kind of truth that doesn’t ask for performance—from you or your horse.

Whether you're navigating burnout, ethical tension, or the quiet knowing that something in your life no longer fits, these books offer a way home.
These words reach beyond the horse world.
They speak to those who are listening for a life that feels real—
a life led by inner knowing, not outer roles.
For those walking the path of congruence, rest, and intuitive living, these reflections offer a place to land.

For those who feel called to experience this work in person, Paulette also offers in-person retreats guided by her herd.
These are not training events. They are sacred spaces of presence, where the truth of the horse, the land, and your own body can finally be heard.

Visit PauletteClark.com

What Does It Mean to Live the Horse?

This isn’t about doing less.
It’s about doing differently.

Living the Horse means listening before leading.
It means giving up control in exchange for truth.
It means showing up—not with an agenda, but with presence.

It’s not a technique.
It’s not a training style.
It’s a shift in how we see horses—and ourselves.

This is for people who are ready to stop performing,
and start relating.

Read more about our philosophy

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“When the pressure stops, the conversation begins.”
Š Paulette Clark | LivingTheHorse.com | PauletteClark.com